How often do you think that❓
If you do, you certainly have the Controller saboteur.
People with the Controller saboteur have usually the following characteristics:
⭐ Strong energy and need to control and take charge.⚡
⭐Connect with others through competition, challenge, physicality, or conflict rather than softer emotions.⚔️
⭐Wilful, confrontational, straight talker.
⭐Push people beyond comfort zone.
⭐Comes alive when doing the impossible and beating the odds.
⭐Stimulated by and connects through conflict.⚔️ Surprised that others get hurt.😮
⭐Intimidate others. In-your-face communication interpreted by others as anger or criticism.
They tell themselves:
⭐"Without the Controller, you can’t get much done".
⭐"You need to push people".
⭐"If I don’t control, I will be controlled, and I can’t live with that".
⭐"I am trying to get the job done for all our sakes".
Guess what, if you are telling yourself that, your Controller saboteur is lying to you!😵
You might gain short term control but you lose long-term influence.😦
How present is the Controller saboteur in you❓ Check the 5 minutes assessment: https://ask.calliecares.com/whats-your-saboteur-quiz/